| There is something that's been bothering me for a long time now...
And that is this notion that the best pickup artists don't get rejected.
I've even heard of a '5 for 5' concept which claims that 'a true master pickup artist can sleep with 5 out 5 girls he approaches. And if you are not a Master PUA than you are an AFC. There is no middle ground.'
That might be the single biggest chunk of bullshit I've ever heard in my life.
Seriously...
It's just ridiculous in every way. The problem is, it's good for business.
If guys studying this stuff believe that 'Pickup Nirvana' exists, then they will continue buying workshops and products, forever.
And as a man who is selling both, let me just say for the record: Perfection in pickup DOES NOT exist.
I'm not saying that improvement doesn't happen, and I'm not saying that a shy, unskilled guy can't be transformed into an effective pickup artist.
What I am saying is that voodoo concepts like this '5 for 5' crap are actually damaging to the guys who are training to get better... because it is presenting them with an unattainable goal.
I've met most of the top gurus in this industry and had the chance to see many of the braver ones 'in field.'
And to be frank, I have never SEEN ONE that I thought was a better pickup artist than me.
I say this not to brag, but merely to prove a point;
Because I get rejected all the time.
If I could sleep with every girl I approached, I would have been dead YEARS AGO.
Listen, honestly...
If you are sleeping with 20% of the girls you pursue, you are already a GREAT pickup artist. In fact you are probably in the 99th percentile of guys.
Which brings me to my next point:
The sign of a great pickup artist is not how LITTLE he deals with rejection...
The sign of a great pickup artist is HOW he deals with that rejection.
There are many different skill sets or 'competencies' that contribute to a pickup artist's effectiveness. Like slices of a pie, each piece has its own relevance to your success.
One of these competencies is 'deals with rejection.' In other words, we must practice how we deal with rejection in the same way we would work to improve our energy, or master new conversational skills. Learning how to cope with rejection in a productive manner is a vital part of the game, and an important part of the training we've developed.
And it is crucial, because when dealt with poorly, rejection is absolutely debilitating.
But when it is properly harnessed, it has the power to become our greatest teacher.
So keep that in mind the next time she says 'No.'
And don't believe the hype.
Talk soon,
Julian
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